“Sticks and stones may break your bones,
Yet words can never hurt me.”
Most of us have heard this little rhyme as children. Historically it has been used in legal cases and to encourage people to walk away if others are being verbally abusive. We know sticks, stones, knives, guns and fists can cause physical harm and injury. Though so can words, ask any lawyer or three year old.
It isn’t just the words we hear or read, it’s also the conversations we have with ourselves in our own heads consciously and subconsciously. The voices in our heads really do tell us to do it… the quiet whispers that scratch around inside maintaining and creating anxiety, doubt, confusion and mistrust. And that is just within ourselves.
The impact of parental, educational, religious and cultural expectations, impositions, doctrine and dogma all have their impact on us all. We all want to be accepted, loved and liked. However, if you are unable to accept yourself, or at least like who you are as a person – it won’t matter what others say or think.
It’s time to wake up and change. Until anyone accepts or realises their life or behaviour has to change; it remains the same. In the Western world we are very stuck in our heads, we are discouraged from displaying emotion and acknowledging intuition. Then we wonder why we have difficulty switching off or consider it abnormal to take time to relax.
We mostly want to be perceived as good children; regardless of our age. We’re conditioned from a very young age to behave in acceptable ways or face punishment and retribution. It is hard-wired as guilt, shame, fear, apathy and pity. I’m not a God-fearing person, never have been. Why would a benevolent being require obedience? Neither am I an atheist. If people want to pursue a spiritual path and have faith in yellow M & Ms and it helps them live a great life – who am I to argue?
How we live our lives should cause no harm or loss to self or any other. It’s common sense, even a child could understand. No one should be killing in the name of anyone or anything. We have to take responsibility for how we feel and think; as well as what we say and do. No longer can we keep passing the buck to whoever, or abdicating our choices to governments, medics, the media, religions, social media; or others. Did you know that we only have to be told information three times before we start to absorb and believe it.
How many people have gone to see their GP or medical practitioner feeling a little under the weather? We just feel a bit off, then we are told by this person you have such-and-such disease. Then you are told you will need further tests and it is likely you will have this condition for the rest of your life. As they hold a qualification, we accept that information, after all they know what they are talking about. We go home with a leaflet, find a website detailing symptoms and then we start to develop them…that is the power of words.
The media also exploit us with headlines, sound bites of information and advertising. Anything to grab our attention and manipulate our consciousness. Switch it all off! Put it down and pay attention to what is going on within. As adults, we insist on making life complicated and a big deal. Though what if you took a leaf out of a child’s book and made it simple again? We can transform our internal programs, or we can keep them playing subliminally in the background in a continuous loop.
So what if you could change how you feel about an issue in your life? Or you shift your thinking to perceive life differently? Would you do it? What if you could be taught simple exercises to enrich your life and well-being? What is to be? The white pills? Or what you already have within you? It can take as little as 1 hour of your life working with your own feelings, thoughts, words and EFT. Energy medicine has been present in our lives in many forms. It can be as simple as starting to talk about what is within you.
Thinking about the past, about things we wish we hadn’t done or said, or things we wanted to do differently is not helpful beyond the learning that we would change behaviour next time. It takes us out of our present experience and awareness. We have our memories, echoes of experience etched into our souls. We can access them, yet never be fully present in them. It’s a bit like holding water in your hand. If we are still and let it be – we have clarity of our experiences. It is when we focus only on the past that we get stuck there. Replaying our experiences over and over again. “Could we have done things differently?” “Should we have said?” Could have, should have, would have…
We all have a choice, to allow what was, to determine who we are; or recognise who we are is independent of the past. There comes a point where we break free of our experiences and start listening to the calm within. Working with EFT allows you to shift your focus and let go; to be present and aware of life now. You already have the answers and solutions within to what ails you; it’s just connecting with it. Once you have the keys to your kingdom – there are no limits.
Sure, learn from your lessons; there are no mistakes in life. There are only opportunities to grow from the compost of experiences and be present in life – that is all there is. Yet we make it all so complicated; when it is so simple. When we are present, everything is within us – instantly accessible.
Some of us focus on our gateways of experience; others on where life should be. Worrying about the future is equally pointless, it robs us of the joy that can be found in the present moment, it also contributes to anxiety and unease. “Are we doing it right?” “Will others acknowledge who and what we are?” “Will we have this or that in our lives?” We become slaves to destiny, again forgetting who we truly are; for the promise of what might be. So which is more important? The thread of experience, or the eye of the needle? We become blind to the reality of life, focusing on the doing and achieving – rather than just being.
Living in the present moment allows us to consciously focus our awareness on be-ing as often as possible. You can help yourself to do this by taking the time to practice experiencing the present moment and discovering how great that feels! Our lives, all of them, can only exist now; in the moment. The rest are echoes and projections. The threads of possibility competing for our attention, intention and energy – calling to us from the becoming. Are we happy for others to whisper to us, telling us what we need? Or, are we happy when the chatter is silenced? Leaving us all the ability to hear our own wisdom, to know what is right from within.
It can be as simple as taking a few deep breaths, releasing tension and stress from the body, letting go of the thoughts that rush in; and allowing yourself to be calm, relaxed and still. Just allow yourself to be. We’re going to try a little exercise for just a few moments.
- Take a few deep breaths and relax, take a few more and allow yourself to relax a little more.
- Now, imagine your life without fear of past or life yet to be. Imagine life without anger, lack or doubt; beyond pain and chaos.
- How do you feel? Take a few deep breaths and relax.
Again, for a few moments, imagine your life exactly as you want…
- Feeling great, healthy, calm and relaxed; enjoying life.
- Knowing your life is exactly as it is meant to be.
Now, how do you feel? Notice the difference. Remember how you feel and know you are already this person.
Happy…confident… calm… healthy.
Loving and living your life to the full.
Apart from day-dreaming, you may have just practiced your first meditation and visualisation. Remember how it feels to be. Welcome the calm and clarity it brings. Feel the energy and opportunity it manifests in your life. All you have experienced, over the past few moments is how to just be; today and everyday. Over the next three weeks, just once a day, practice this exercise.
Choose a moment in your day when you are able to do this.
- Remove all distractions – ringing phones, door bells, TV, radio, social media, barking and screaming, responsibilities of two legged and four legged ones.
- Ask others to let you just unwind and relax for a few minutes; to have a few moments of me time.
Or practice this exercise with others, use it as an opportunity to be together. This is your gift to yourself.
It may only seem like a few moments, when you’ve taken a few minutes, it may naturally expand to 20 minutes or more; it doesn’t matter. It is the space you are making to be present with Self. Even if, just for Today.
Working with Energy medicine and EFT is an effective method for managing your stress, resolving your issues and enhancing the life you already have. The great news is I can share this versatile tool either over the phone or face to face. For further information, www.herbal-spirit.webs.com, and to book your EFT session, contact John on 07751-485204.